Workplace infighting: those misunderstood “little men”
The bustling vanity market in the workplace has always been the battlefield of Office men and women.
In all kinds of workplace dark battles, almost everyone in the workplace has a history of blood and tears related to villains. Most of the unfair and cross-border incidents encountered by workplace people can be blamed on the “despicable villain”.He had the chance, and it was him who finally got the promotion; he obviously paid the most, but she took credit for it; he clearly had his work authority, but he was unreasonably intrusive . if not secretly, they wouldOn what grounds?
After hearing such complaints, it is easy for you to think that we are in a world where “little people are right”.
However, if you look around, you will find a peculiar phenomenon. Many people who complain about being harmed by villains, and who have suffered from the villains, are also “treacherous villains” in others’ mouths.
No wonder villains are so rampant, whether you like it or not, someone has classified you as a villain.
This is somewhat black humor.
The workplace of “little people around” is unsettling. Is it a problem with our professional ethics to trace its roots, or have we deviated from the definition of understanding?
Psychologist Xiaodan from Health 863 Network believes that there is no denying the existence of villains in the workplace, but just as there are few real bad people in life, villains in the workplace are just extreme values and not many.
The “little man saying” that the workplace is flooded more stems from the fact that individuals cannot calmly view workplace competition, which leads to evaluation errors.
There is fierce competition in the workplace, everyone is trying to get out, but not all efforts can be correspondingly rewarded.
When a person cannot get the expected affirmation and lacks the sense of introspection, it is easy to find the cause objectively.
The simplest cure for pain and pain is to look for imaginary enemies and “demonize” them into villains, intentionally or unintentionally.
“The open gun is easy to hide, and the dark arrow is difficult to prevent.” Because the other party is a villain and is used to conspiracy and trickery, I will lose. It is completely excusable.
Who is most likely to be an imaginary enemy?
Usually it’s tough opponents, or ambitious, aggressive people.
There are always some people in the workplace that are unpleasant. They are either indifferent or aggressive at work, but they also show their wolf at the same opportunity and spare no effort to fight for their own benefits.
The fact that the character is placed in the middle has brought a lot of pressure and distress to the people around it, and it has naturally become the imaginary enemy and villain in the hearts of others.
But such people are not necessarily “little people” in the true sense.
What a “little man” should mean is a bad person with mean means and bad character.
In contrast, these imaginary enemies may be more unique in their personal positions, ideas and behaviors.
Their words and deeds are not so comfortable, but they have not adopted unfair competition methods.
Although their character is not so noble, it is not so mean.
Defining it as a villain is a bit exaggerated.
Treating opponents as villains, in addition to cognitive biases, Ms. Xiao Dan believes that individuals may also lose opportunities for improvement.
Because the other party is considered a villain, the frustrated party often thinks that they do not have much to review, and they will not learn from the other party with an open mind.
But in fact, the other party can put pressure on you or even gain the upper hand, and there must be strengths that are worth your learning.
If you just face away from your opponent, you can neither see the advantages of the opponent nor make up for your weaknesses.
The so-called “Everything is knowledgeable, and human knowledge is an article.”
Of course, you don’t have to treat your colleague as a confidant, but there is absolutely no need to treat your colleague as an enemy.
A good workplace ecological environment is beneficial to the survival and development of each individual.
Based on teamwork and mutual understanding, tolerate “different people” in an open-minded manner, treat opponents fairly and treat gains and losses rationally before winning a larger stage.